Girls often have a hard time relating to the guys they love. There is a
lot of truth to the 1990's Mars and Venus book series by Dr. John Gray.
Men and women seem to speak and understand different languages from one
another.
Girls don't understand what their guys are really
saying and get their feelings hurt quite often when no negativity was
implied from the guy at all. Then he's baffled that she's suddenly
giving him the silent treatment and holding back tears.
Then the you know what hits the fan and it's flying dishes and fireworks everywhere.
But
it doesn't HAVE to be that way. There are a few simple truths that
could very well be relationship savers when girls figure them out about
their men.
1) He Really Does Think about Nothing
It's
true. And every girl doubts it. You ask him what he's thinking about. He
says nothing. You get upset or hurt that he isn't sharing with you. You
think he's hiding something from you. The truth is, he really isn't
thinking about a darn thing. If anything you might be jealous that you
can't harness that power yourself to see what it feels like to really
think about nothing at all.
2) He Loves You Just the Way You Are
He
really does. The only problem is that he never wants you to change.
He'd be happiest if you'd stay the way you were the day you met forever.
He wants you all flirty, happy, eager to impress, and lovey dovey. He
doesn't want that to end.
3) He Doesn't Like Change
He
doesn't want you to change, as we've already mention, but he also
doesn't want to change himself. That's why he's so reluctant to eat
healthier, start exercising, or cut out the salt. He really would be
happy to have meatloaf every Monday, sit in the same recliner for fifty
years, and drive the same truck until the tires fell off. It's also why
he has a not to subtle panic attack (though he'll deny that until his
dying day) whenever you start to make changes.
4) He has Emotional Needs Too
Women
often mistake their husbands, boyfriends, etc. for people who lack
emotional depth. The thing is, men have deep feelings. They don't wear
their emotions on their sleeves. Those waters run very deep. He may not
profess his undying love for you every day, he may never be the Hallmark
man of the year, but his love for you and his family is something he
feels down deep and he needs reassurance from you, that his love is
returned.
Once you understand these simple truths about the guys
you love, you may find a new understanding for the dynamics in your
relationship. Hopefully, you'll have a new appreciation for the man you
love and what really drives him in life so your relationship can be
stronger than ever before.
