No matter how down and out you feel about the ending of your
relationship, it's important to understand that it's not completely your
fault things didn't work out. No matter what your ex tries to convince
you, it takes two people to make or break a relationship. It will take
two people working together to put it back together again. You need to
understand this and ask for things to change before you get your ex
back. These are the reasons why you deserve better in the future.
You Bring Value to the Relationship Too
Everyone
in a relationship has a role to play and a contribution to make. Both
of you bring something special and unique to the relationship. The key
is to learn to value your own contribution to the relationship and ask
for the things you need that you aren't getting out of the relationship.
It's also equally important that you invite your boyfriend to do the
same and listen with an open mind when he does.
He'll Respect You More For It
Respect
is important for men. They love being shown respect. Even more, they
love it when the woman they love earns their respect. He wants to be
proud of you. He also wants to be proud to be associated with you. When
you stand up for yourself and ask him to show you the respect you
deserve, he will be a little surprised at first, but much more likely to
deliver than if you never asked.
Respect is a Two-Way Street
It's
very important to show your man respect. It's one of the most important
things you can do for your man if you want to keep him happy and make
your relationship last. But you also need to expect it from him. Be
careful about accepting anything less than the respect you deserve from
him and for going back to him if he isn't willing to give you the
respect. Respect should never be given that it isn't earned and it
should never be sacrificed in the name of love.
Because You're Worth It
Back
in the 1980's, a prominent cosmetics company coined the phrase,
"Because you're worth it." The slogan was to remind women that they
deserve the very best in cosmetics and hair care items because of all
the things they do at home, on the job, and in their relationships.
While the slogan still circulates, the message has gotten lost in a
large segment of women. You forget that you deserve respect. You're
worth it. Say it with me. "You're worth it!" Now remember that whenever
tempers flare and disrespectful words are uttered or deeds are done and
demand better in the future - for the sake of your relationship and your
sanity.
It's not enough to go back to the way things were right
before your breakup. You need to do better this time around. Better
begins with asking for the things you need in the relationship and
expecting to get them this time around.
