Breaking up is hard on everyone involved. If you're interested in
hanging on to your relationship, then the best solution is to prevent
the breakup in the first place. Preventative action can save you both
the heartache of a breakup and the lengthy recovery and reconciliation
process. More importantly, it can help prevent many damaging words and
actions before they ever happen. But, how do you stop something that
seems almost inevitable?
Communicate More Effectively
Guys
and girls have this Mars and Venus issue when it comes to
communication. John Gray, Pd.D. even wrote a book about it back during
the early 1990's. The book was on the bestseller lists for an
unprecedented 121 weeks because the concept was so simple, and yet, so
foreign. Sometimes, the best solutions really are the simplest.
The
problem, according to this book, is that men and women communicate
differently. What one person is saying (or intends to say) is not always
what the other person in the relationship hears. This miscommunication
often causes the perception of problems or issues in the relationship
that only exists in the minds of the two people in the relationship.
That's why learning to communicate effectively is so important for the
sake of your sanity and your relationship.
Discover Your Love Languages
Everyone
has a love language that best sums up the way the express love and the
way they best FEEL loved. The love languages include:
1) Words of affirmation
2) Physical touch
3) Quality time
4) Gifts of service
5) Receiving gifts
Taking
the time to understand how you best feel and express love in comparison
to how your partner best feels loved and expresses love for you can
save a lot of hurt feelings, cold shoulders, disagreements, and
knockdown, drag out, dish flinging arguments over the course of your
relationship.
Learn to Speak Your Partner's Love Language and Accept Love from Your Partner
You
see, people don't only have a little difficulty feeling loved by
partners that speak different love languages. In some cases, they have a
difficult time accepting love in that language. This leads to feelings
of alienation, confusion, and inadequacy for partners and drives a wedge
into the relationship.
Learning to accept the love your partner
has to offer while also learning to show love in a manner that will make
your partner feel loved and cherished are equally important components
when it comes to love languages. They are just as important as being
able to make your partner feel the LOVE you have.
Love languages
are great, but they do take time to work with and to become effective
tools for saving your relationship from impending breakup. There are
other options to consider if you need more immediate results.
